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I publish new YouTube videos each week on:
Understanding people
Building relationships
Negotiating and influencing
Handling fear of rejection and avoidance
Attracting people, winning them over
Initiating conversations
Sharpening your listening skills
And much more!
How to Convince a Top Performing Employee to Stay After Resigning | Advice for Engineering Managers
When one of your top performing engineers gives their notice, it creates a negative impact on your team’s productivity and morale - and it creates many issues that you don’t have time for either, like hiring, onboarding, and training their replacement without missing a beat.
If one of your top performers just gave their notice, don’t panic - in this video, I explain how you can convince them to stay, without even getting HR involved!
How to Make Sure People Listen and Understand You | Leadership Training for Engineering Managers
Engineering managers and technology leaders can’t afford communication breakdowns in the workplace. Most miscommunications in engineering can be prevented by a simple active listening technique for making sure their directions are communicated clearly - as well as effectively received by the listener!
In this episode, you’ll learn
Why most miscommunications and misunderstandings happen in engineering - or anywhere
A 2-way listening technique (empathic listening) for making sure you understood what they said, and vice/versa
Why Engineers Struggle with Confidence and Speaking Up At Work | Improving Your Confidence
If you’re an engineer who struggles with confidence, imposter syndrome, self-expression, leadership, or setting boundaries - there’s a good chance you’re not looking in the right place for the solution.
John Chao is a Perspective Coach with a background in HR with global aerospace engineering companies - and in this video, he shares insights on why most engineers struggle in these areas, how it impacts your career, and what you can do about it!
How to Give Constructive Feedback Without the Stress | Leadership Training for Engineers
As an engineering leader, you need to make sure every engineer on your team does the job right - which means you have to give constructive feedback and deliver your message in a way that influences, motivates, and inspires the engineer to WANT to improve their performance.
This is a critical skill for engineering managers, yet most engineering managers don’t know how to give constructive feedback to employees or peers - or they avoid it all together because it’s uncomfortable - which allows the problems to continue.
In this video, I’m going to explain where most engineering managers go wrong - with respect to giving effective constructive feedback. You’re also going to learn a simple framework for giving constructive feedback in a way that actually gets results - and without the stress!
Moving From Individual Contributor to Managing Remote Team of Engineers | Interview Vince Marvin
Moving from individual contributor into your first leadership role is challenging enough by itself - but when you’re managing an entirely remote team of engineers that’s based in different time zones throughout the country adds another layer of complexities in your first 90 days.
Check out this interview with Vince Marvin to hear his story and learn how he overcame these challenges.
Improve Your Listening Skills by End of This Video | Leadership Training for Engineering Managers
If you want to be a great engineering manager or leader, you need to be a great listener. When you listen, it lets other people know that you value and appreciate them - as well as what they have to say - which is why listening is the fastest and most effective way to build rapport, trust, credibility, mutual respect, and loyalty.
However, many engineering leaders aren’t aware of this - and most people never actually learned how to effectively listen! Meanwhile, in today’s digital work environment, listening is harder than ever - with waves of information competing for our attention every minute.
In this episode, you’re going to learn the 3 main reasons why people struggle with listening - along with 3 techniques that will immediately improve your listening skills!
How to Figure Out Your Career Path | Career Advice from Engineering Manager
Are you struggling to figure out your engineering career path? Or maybe you’re considering pivoting your engineering career into a new direction, but struggling to figure out exactly what you want?
You’re not alone - many engineers struggle with this.
In this episode, I share insights from my background as an engineering manager on how to stop going through the motions, so that you can start taking action towards figuring out the perfect career path for you - along with 4 specific actions you can take to begin figuring out where you want your career to go.
How to Quickly Build Relationships With Anyone | The Secret to Winning Friends and Influencing People
Knowing how to quickly build relationships with people is one of the most valuable skills you can develop - because it impacts every area of your life.
In your personal life, it’s your way to make new friends, broaden your perspective, and gain exposure to new experiences that you wouldn’t typically seek out on your own. Professionally, it’s the fastest and most effective way to build rapport and establish trust with your boss and peers.
Even in engineering, technical skills alone aren’t enough to nail your job interview, earn a raise, or win a promotion.
And in this episode, I’m going to explain
Why building relationships is one of the most powerful skills you can build
How to win over anybody and quickly earn their trust
5-step framework you can use to effortlessly build relationships with anyone
Influence Anybody to Do Anything in 5 Steps! [Persuasion - Part 3 of 3]
Many engineers are unhappy with their current situation - whether it’s earning less than you’re worth, getting pigeon-holed, stuck in a soul-crushing job, or feeling trapped because you lack the experience to pivot your career in a new direction.
If you’re in any of these situations, it boils down to one main cause - you never learned how to influence other people.
But here’s the truth…
If you want to advance in your engineering career, and transition into roles where you’re
Actively participating to the team’s decision-making process
Growing and your unique set skills are utilized
Gain more freedom, autonomy, and independent judgment
Contributing at far greater levels than just calcs and codes
Technical skills aren’t enough - you need to know how to influence people!
And by the end of this episode, you’ll learn a simple 5 step process for influencing anybody - and how to apply it to real-life scenarios by walking you through some examples.
The Most Important Skill for Persuading and Influencing People - [Part 2 of 3]
When it comes to convincing people to do something - like negotiating a raise or promotion with your boss - do you feel like you’re constantly explaining things that should be common sense?
If so, it means you’re missing the number one skill that’s required for influencing and persuading people.
If you want to advance in your engineering career, and transition into roles where you’re,
Actively participating to the team’s decision-making process
Growing and your unique set skills are utilized
Gain more freedom, autonomy, and independent judgment
Contributing at far greater levels than just calcs and codes
Technical skills aren’t enough - you need to know how to influence people!
In this episode, I explain,
The number 1 skill you need when it comes to influencing people
Why this skill might not come natural to you
And how to develop this skill
And by the end, you’ll know the secret to influencing anyone to do anything!
How to Influence Without Authority at Work [Persuasion - Part 1 of 3]
At the beginning of your engineering career, the majority of your job is following rules, procedures, guidelines and instructions that are created and given to you by senior engineers and managers.
As engineers, we like to believe that our reputation is based on our performance tangible metrics like quality of our work, meeting deadlines, and minimizing errors.
But here’s the truth…
If you want to advance in your engineering career, and transition into roles where you’re
Actively participating to the team’s decision-making process
Growing and your unique set skills are utilized
Gain more freedom, autonomy, and independent judgment
Contributing at far greater levels than just calcs and codes
Technical skills aren’t enough - you need to know how to influence people!
And in this episode, I explain
Why influence is more valuable than any technical skill (even for engineers)
What influence is, and how it’s different than manipulation
The ONLY way to convince someone to do something they don’t want to do
10 Ways to Accelerate Your Personal Growth | Advice From an Engineering Manager! [Escape Your Comfort Zone - Part 2 of 2]
As an engineer, you’re probably not comfortable with going outside of your comfort zone - because you most likely prefer it when things are predictable and risk-averse.
But this is holding you back, because going outside of your comfort zone is the best way to grow, gain perspective, discover new opportunities, and enhance the quality of your life.
In this episode, I share a real life example of how going outside your comfort zone can quickly transform your life - along with 10 ways for you to get more comfortable with going outside of your comfort zone!
Are You Feeling Stuck in Your Career? | Advice From an Engineering Manager! [Escape Your Comfort Zone - Part 1 of 2]
As an engineer, you’re probably not comfortable with going outside of your comfort zone - because you most likely prefer it when things are predictable and risk-averse.
But this is holding you back, because going outside of your comfort zone is the best way to grow, gain perspective, discover new opportunities, and enhance the quality of your life.
In this episode, I clear up common misconceptions about your comfort zone by explaining what it actually is, how it can ruin you, and why people are afraid to go outside of it - you’ll also learn the only 3 ways to escape your comfort zone!
How to Convince Your Boss to Let You Work From Home in 5 Steps | Secret Tips from and Engineering Manager
Knowing how to influence, persuade, and win someone to your way of thinking is more valuable than any technical skill - even for engineers!
Because when you know how to influence people, you can convince anyone to do anything - and you can even convince your boss to let you work from home!
But influencing people is like learning a new language. It’s a unique way of thinking, and it takes some getting used to.
In this episode, I explain:
How to actually influence your boss (or anyone)
3 Rules to follow when influencing peopl
A specific step by step formula for convincing your boss to let you work from home
Why Engineers Struggle With Soft Skills - How to Improve Your Communication!
Communication and soft skills are critical to your success as an engineer - but many engineers struggle in these areas, and it holds you back from reaching your full potential.
In this article, I explain - why engineers think differently than most people, how and why it leads to communication breakdowns and misunderstandings, and how to use this awareness to improve your communication skills.
7 Steps to Recover from Engineering Burnout - Advice from an Engineering Manager
Engineering burnout is a real problem throughout every field of engineering. In fact, 3 out of 4 engineers say they’ve experienced burnout in their current job - which means mental exhaustion, decreased motivation, lowered performance, and negative attitudes towards yourself and/or other people.
Basically you’re too exhausted to function, which means your intelligence, judgment, decision-making - and pretty much everything else that makes you “you” - is either compromised or impaired.
Key warning signs to look out for are fatigue, apathy, headaches, and feeling dissatisfied with your work.
By the end of this episode, you’re going to learn how to recover from burnout in 7 steps!
3 Ways For Engineers to Improve Your Patience
Patience is a critical skill to develop, because impatience costs you more than you realize.
Losing your cool at work and letting your emotions get the better of you - even if it’s only one time - completely cancels out your proven track record and has a devastating long-term impact on your career.
This video explains 3 powerful techniques for improving your patience - so that you can remain calm, cool, and in-control in any situation!
What Are The Most Important Skills for Engineers? (Advice from an Engineering Manager)
Technical skills are no longer enough for engineers.
Over the last 15 years, the value of specialists and gurus in engineering has been negated by technology breakthroughs in design software and automation. The result has been completely redefining roles, responsibilities, and expectations in every field of engineering.
Today - hiring managers and companies are placing a higher value on engineers with THESE skills!
Here’s Why You Are Struggling to Navigate Your Engineering Career
Engineering school taught you how to think like an engineer - but it didn’t give you the skills you need for navigating, advancing, and accelerating in your career path.
In this episode, I share insights from my experience as an engineering manager - so that you can start building the key soft skills you need to take control of navigating your career and creating your own opportunities!
Ask These 8 Questions in EVERY Job Interview!
The most important part of any job interview is asking the right questions.
It's your best opportunity to drive the conversation and gain insights about the organization. And most times, the questions you ask dictate whether or not you actually get an offer.
As an engineering manager, I’ve interviewed more people than I can even remember. And I want to share insights from my experience - so that you can take control of building the career you deserve!
In this article, I explain the 8 most important questions you need to ask on every job interview.