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I publish new YouTube videos each week on:

  • Understanding people

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  • Handling fear of rejection and avoidance

  • Attracting people, winning them over

  • Initiating conversations

  • Sharpening your listening skills

  • And much more!

How to Deal with Difficult Employee as a New Manager | Advice for Engineering Leaders

How to Deal with Difficult Employee as a New Manager | Advice for Engineering Leaders

Are you a new manager struggling to handle a challenging senior direct report?

In this episode, join Doug Howard as he shares a simple yet effective approach to change the dynamic and build rapport with difficult senior-level employees. Discover the reasons behind difficult behavior and learn how to understand their perspective. Learn how to navigate challenging situations with senior-level direct reports. Gain insights into their perspective and build effective communication channels. Doug shares his personal experience and provides practical techniques for successfully managing challenging relationships.

Don't miss this valuable episode for engineering leaders seeking to enhance their leadership skills.

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How to Motivate an Underperforming Direct Report in 1 Conversation | Leadership Training

How to Motivate an Underperforming Direct Report in 1 Conversation | Leadership Training

Are you an engineering manager facing the challenge of motivating a younger direct report to take ownership of their performance? In this episode, join Doug Howard PE as he shares a powerful conversation technique to help struggling employees turn their performance around. Discover how to handle underperforming team members without resorting to micromanagement and gain actionable steps to apply this approach in your leadership role.

Empower your team to exceed expectations by unlocking the potential of your direct reports and creating a positive work environment. Don't miss out on valuable insights for engineering managers looking to enhance their leadership skills.

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How to Quantify ROI on Personal Growth and Professional Development

How to Quantify ROI on Personal Growth and Professional Development

Are you struggling to make an investment in your personal growth because you can't quantify the Return on Investment? As you advance in engineering leadership positions, the skills become subjective and harder to quantify. Stop spinning your wheels! In this episode, Doug Howard explains why quantifying ROI is crucial and presents a step-by-step process to help you make the right decision for your engineering career.

Discover a simple framework for quantifying the ROI on intangible investments in your personal growth and professional development. Plus, get access to a FREE ROI Calculator that transforms subjective criteria into quantifiable metrics, giving you confidence in your decision.

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How to Deal With a Toxic Boss Without Quitting | Do These 3 Things | Advice from Engineering Manager

How to Deal With a Toxic Boss Without Quitting | Do These 3 Things | Advice from Engineering Manager

Many engineers and engineering managers are stuck inside toxic work environments and working for bad managers. It’s a growing trend that’s creating many downstream problems because if you work for a bad boss in a toxic work environment for too long, it stunts your professional growth and destroys your confidence, mental health - and perhaps your career!

For most people quitting or finding a new job isn’t always a realistic or timely option, but if you can’t avoid the problem it will only get worse.

This video shows you 3 ways to take control over the situation - so that you can set clear boundaries with your bad manager, and use your bad boss to your advantage.

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5 Keys to Navigating Difficult Conversations at Work | Leadership Training for Engineering Managers

5 Keys to Navigating Difficult Conversations at Work | Leadership Training for Engineering Managers

Struggling with difficult conversations at work?

As an engineering manager or tech leader, it's essential to navigate conflicts, provide feedback, and discuss sensitive topics effectively - and this episode emphasizes the importance of:

  • Preparation, fact gathering, and setting clear goals

  • Choosing the right time and place

  • Framing difficult conversations positively

  • Considering the other person's perspective

  • Fostering solution-focused open dialogue

You’ll learn 5 powerful strategies (like 'giving them an out' to alleviate tension and create a supportive atmosphere) for mastering tough conversations with your team, colleagues, and even your boss - so that you can unlock the power of effective communication, become a more effective engineering manager, and tackle difficult conversations head-on to excel in your role as a leader!

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Why Engineering Managers and Technical Leaders Struggle With Giving Negative Feedback | 10 Reasons

Why Engineering Managers and Technical Leaders Struggle With Giving Negative Feedback | 10 Reasons

If you’re an engineering manager or technical leader, there’s a good chance you struggle with giving constructive criticism or negative feedback in a positive way. As an engineering manager myself, I understand the unique hurdles and complexities that come with providing constructive feedback to your team - and I also know how to help you overcome them!

The first step in building this critical skill is recognizing the 10 most common barriers that are holding you back from effectively providing your team with constructive feedback.

By understanding these obstacles and implementing practical strategies, engineering managers can overcome them, enhance their leadership abilities, and foster a supportive feedback culture within their teams.

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12 Reasons Why Constructive Feedback is A Critical Skill for Engineering Managers + Technical Leaders

12 Reasons Why Constructive Feedback is A Critical Skill for Engineering Managers + Technical Leaders

When you’re an engineering manager or technical leader, providing clear and effective constructive feedback to your team is critical to your overall effectiveness and success!

This eye-opening episode is packed with valuable insights for engineering managers who want to create a feedback-rich environment that drives innovation, fosters growth, and delivers exceptional project outcomes.

We’ll explore the 12 consequential outcomes of not providing constructive feedback to your team - from missed learning opportunities and stagnant individual growth, to diminished team dynamics and reduced productivity.

You’ll also discover how avoiding negative feedback kills employee engagement, leads to increased turnover, weakens manager-employee relationships - as well as its negative impact on organizational culture, accountability, and alignment with goals.

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How Should You Respond When An Employee Resigns? | Leadership Training for Engineering Managers

How Should You Respond When An Employee Resigns? | Leadership Training for Engineering Managers

What to do when your top-performing employee resigns: A guide to handling their departure with professionalism and grace.

Managing employee turnover is a common challenge for engineering managers - and anyone who manages people. Employees come and go, and replacing them is part of the job. However, when a highly valuable member of your team announces their departure, it can be particularly challenging.

It is crucial to handle this situation with care, considering various factors and ensuring minimal impact on the team and the departing employee

Understanding the reasons why good employees leave and knowing how to respond is essential. In some cases, employee departures are straightforward, with reasonable performers who are easily replaceable or contractors for whom turnover is expected.

However, what do you do when the one person you least want to lose from your team informs you of their departure? This is a difficult experience for any team leader, as it requires careful consideration of multiple aspects. As a leader, your responsibility is to mitigate any lasting negative effects on the team and the departing employee.

This video explains 5 most constructive actions you should take to make sure your team stays focused, productive, and positive during this transition period.

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How to Convince a Top Performing Employee to Stay After Resigning | Advice for Engineering Managers

How to Convince a Top Performing Employee to Stay After Resigning | Advice for Engineering Managers

When one of your top performing engineers gives their notice, it creates a negative impact on your team’s productivity and morale - and it creates many issues that you don’t have time for either, like hiring, onboarding, and training their replacement without missing a beat.

If one of your top performers just gave their notice, don’t panic - in this video, I explain how you can convince them to stay, without even getting HR involved!

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How to Make Sure People Listen and Understand You | Leadership Training for Engineering Managers

How to Make Sure People Listen and Understand You | Leadership Training for Engineering Managers

Engineering managers and technology leaders can’t afford communication breakdowns in the workplace. Most miscommunications in engineering can be prevented by a simple active listening technique for making sure their directions are communicated clearly - as well as effectively received by the listener!

In this episode, you’ll learn

Why most miscommunications and misunderstandings happen in engineering - or anywhere

A 2-way listening technique (empathic listening) for making sure you understood what they said, and vice/versa

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Why Engineers Struggle with Confidence and Speaking Up At Work | Improving Your Confidence

Why Engineers Struggle with Confidence and Speaking Up At Work | Improving Your Confidence

If you’re an engineer who struggles with confidence, imposter syndrome, self-expression, leadership, or setting boundaries - there’s a good chance you’re not looking in the right place for the solution.

John Chao is a Perspective Coach with a background in HR with global aerospace engineering companies - and in this video, he shares insights on why most engineers struggle in these areas, how it impacts your career, and what you can do about it!

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How to Give Constructive Feedback Without the Stress | Leadership Training for Engineers

How to Give Constructive Feedback Without the Stress | Leadership Training for Engineers

As an engineering leader, you need to make sure every engineer on your team does the job right - which means you have to give constructive feedback and deliver your message in a way that influences, motivates, and inspires the engineer to WANT to improve their performance.

This is a critical skill for engineering managers, yet most engineering managers don’t know how to give constructive feedback to employees or peers - or they avoid it all together because it’s uncomfortable - which allows the problems to continue.

In this video, I’m going to explain where most engineering managers go wrong - with respect to giving effective constructive feedback. You’re also going to learn a simple framework for giving constructive feedback in a way that actually gets results - and without the stress!

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Moving From Individual Contributor to Managing Remote Team of Engineers | Interview Vince Marvin

Moving From Individual Contributor to Managing Remote Team of Engineers | Interview Vince Marvin

Moving from individual contributor into your first leadership role is challenging enough by itself - but when you’re managing an entirely remote team of engineers that’s based in different time zones throughout the country adds another layer of complexities in your first 90 days.

Check out this interview with Vince Marvin to hear his story and learn how he overcame these challenges.

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Improve Your Listening Skills by End of This Video | Leadership Training for Engineering Managers
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Improve Your Listening Skills by End of This Video | Leadership Training for Engineering Managers

If you want to be a great engineering manager or leader, you need to be a great listener. When you listen, it lets other people know that you value and appreciate them - as well as what they have to say - which is why listening is the fastest and most effective way to build rapport, trust, credibility, mutual respect, and loyalty.

However, many engineering leaders aren’t aware of this - and most people never actually learned how to effectively listen! Meanwhile, in today’s digital work environment, listening is harder than ever - with waves of information competing for our attention every minute.

In this episode, you’re going to learn the 3 main reasons why people struggle with listening - along with 3 techniques that will immediately improve your listening skills!

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How to Figure Out Your Career Path | Career Advice from Engineering Manager
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How to Figure Out Your Career Path | Career Advice from Engineering Manager

Are you struggling to figure out your engineering career path? Or maybe you’re considering pivoting your engineering career into a new direction, but struggling to figure out exactly what you want?

You’re not alone - many engineers struggle with this.

In this episode, I share insights from my background as an engineering manager on how to stop going through the motions, so that you can start taking action towards figuring out the perfect career path for you - along with 4 specific actions you can take to begin figuring out where you want your career to go.

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How to Quickly Build Relationships With Anyone | The Secret to Winning Friends and Influencing People
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How to Quickly Build Relationships With Anyone | The Secret to Winning Friends and Influencing People

Knowing how to quickly build relationships with people is one of the most valuable skills you can develop - because it impacts every area of your life.

In your personal life, it’s your way to make new friends, broaden your perspective, and gain exposure to new experiences that you wouldn’t typically seek out on your own. Professionally, it’s the fastest and most effective way to build rapport and establish trust with your boss and peers.

Even in engineering, technical skills alone aren’t enough to nail your job interview, earn a raise, or win a promotion.

And in this episode, I’m going to explain

  • Why building relationships is one of the most powerful skills you can build

  • How to win over anybody and quickly earn their trust

  • 5-step framework you can use to effortlessly build relationships with anyone

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Influence Anybody to Do Anything in 5 Steps! [Persuasion - Part 3 of 3]
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Influence Anybody to Do Anything in 5 Steps! [Persuasion - Part 3 of 3]

Many engineers are unhappy with their current situation - whether it’s earning less than you’re worth, getting pigeon-holed, stuck in a soul-crushing job, or feeling trapped because you lack the experience to pivot your career in a new direction.

If you’re in any of these situations, it boils down to one main cause - you never learned how to influence other people.

But here’s the truth…

If you want to advance in your engineering career, and transition into roles where you’re

Actively participating to the team’s decision-making process

Growing and your unique set skills are utilized

Gain more freedom, autonomy, and independent judgment

Contributing at far greater levels than just calcs and codes

Technical skills aren’t enough - you need to know how to influence people!

And by the end of this episode, you’ll learn a simple 5 step process for influencing anybody - and how to apply it to real-life scenarios by walking you through some examples.

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The Most Important Skill for Persuading and Influencing People - [Part 2 of 3]
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The Most Important Skill for Persuading and Influencing People - [Part 2 of 3]

When it comes to convincing people to do something - like negotiating a raise or promotion with your boss - do you feel like you’re constantly explaining things that should be common sense?

If so, it means you’re missing the number one skill that’s required for influencing and persuading people.

If you want to advance in your engineering career, and transition into roles where you’re,

  • Actively participating to the team’s decision-making process

  • Growing and your unique set skills are utilized

  • Gain more freedom, autonomy, and independent judgment

  • Contributing at far greater levels than just calcs and codes

Technical skills aren’t enough - you need to know how to influence people!

In this episode, I explain,

  • The number 1 skill you need when it comes to influencing people

  • Why this skill might not come natural to you

  • And how to develop this skill

  • And by the end, you’ll know the secret to influencing anyone to do anything!

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How to Influence Without Authority at Work [Persuasion - Part 1 of 3]
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How to Influence Without Authority at Work [Persuasion - Part 1 of 3]

At the beginning of your engineering career, the majority of your job is following rules, procedures, guidelines and instructions that are created and given to you by senior engineers and managers.

As engineers, we like to believe that our reputation is based on our performance tangible metrics like quality of our work, meeting deadlines, and minimizing errors.

But here’s the truth…

If you want to advance in your engineering career, and transition into roles where you’re

  • Actively participating to the team’s decision-making process

  • Growing and your unique set skills are utilized

  • Gain more freedom, autonomy, and independent judgment

  • Contributing at far greater levels than just calcs and codes

Technical skills aren’t enough - you need to know how to influence people!

And in this episode, I explain

  • Why influence is more valuable than any technical skill (even for engineers)

  • What influence is, and how it’s different than manipulation

  • The ONLY way to convince someone to do something they don’t want to do

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10 Ways to Accelerate Your Personal Growth | Advice From an Engineering Manager! [Escape Your Comfort Zone - Part 2 of 2]
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10 Ways to Accelerate Your Personal Growth | Advice From an Engineering Manager! [Escape Your Comfort Zone - Part 2 of 2]

As an engineer, you’re probably not comfortable with going outside of your comfort zone - because you most likely prefer it when things are predictable and risk-averse.

But this is holding you back, because going outside of your comfort zone is the best way to grow, gain perspective, discover new opportunities, and enhance the quality of your life.

In this episode, I share a real life example of how going outside your comfort zone can quickly transform your life - along with 10 ways for you to get more comfortable with going outside of your comfort zone!

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