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I publish new YouTube videos each week on:

  • Understanding people

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  • Sharpening your listening skills

  • And much more!

The Ultimate Constructive Feedback Tool for Leaders & Managers

The Ultimate Constructive Feedback Tool for Leaders & Managers

Looking for an easy way to give feedback that actually leads to results? The Stop Start Continue exercise is a simple yet powerful tool that helps teams give constructive feedback and improve performance. In this video, I’ll show you exactly how to use this exercise to foster team building, deliver actionable feedback, and drive continuous improvement.

Whether you’re a manager, team leader, or just looking for a better way to provide peer-to-peer feedback, this framework is perfect for you. Learn how to implement Stop Start Continue in your team meetings or 1:1 sessions, and discover how it can boost communication and trust within your team. Plus, I’ll share an example of how a manager might use this tool to guide a team member toward success.

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5 Signs You Need to Leave Your Toxic Job

5 Signs You Need to Leave Your Toxic Job

Is your job draining your energy, causing you stress, or making you feel stuck? In this episode, I’m breaking down the Top 5 Signs You Need to Leave Your Toxic Job. From constant burnout to a lack of respect at work, it’s time to recognize the red flags that might be harming your mental health and career.

Toxic workplaces can be tough to escape, but knowing the signs is the first step. If you’re feeling overwhelmed or wondering if it’s time to move on, this video will help you decide if quitting is the best option for you. I’ll also share real-world examples (with a little humor!) to help you spot these signs early on.

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Deep Work in the Age of Distractions

Deep Work in the Age of Distractions

Are we less productive today than we were in the past? In our hyper-connected world, finding time for deep, focused work has become increasingly challenging. Yet, it's more crucial than ever. We’ll explore the importance of deep work amidst modern distractions and how you can reclaim your focus to achieve meaningful productivity. Discover practical techniques for creating uninterrupted work periods and staying focused, even in a distraction-filled environment.

Key Takeaways:

  • Understand the concept of deep work and its benefits

  • Compare focused work periods of the past with today’s constant interruptions

  • Learn practical techniques for creating uninterrupted work periods

  • Discover strategies for maintaining focus and achieving high productivity

📖 What You'll Learn:

  1. Time Blocking: Allocate specific blocks of time for deep work and focus solely on a single task without interruptions.

  2. Digital Detox: Minimize digital distractions by turning off notifications and setting boundaries for tech use.

  3. Environment Optimization: Create a workspace that minimizes distractions and promotes concentration.

  4. Pomodoro Technique: Use timed work sessions to maintain focus and productivity.

  5. Mindfulness and Meditation: Practice mindfulness and meditation to improve concentration and mental clarity.

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6 Types of Workplace Gaslighting to Be Aware Of

6 Types of Workplace Gaslighting to Be Aware Of

Have you ever felt manipulated or made to doubt your own reality at work? Gaslighting can take many forms, and it’s crucial to recognize them to protect yourself. In this episode, we’ll uncover six types of workplace gaslighting, provide real-life examples, and offer practical advice on how to respond to each one. Learn to identify the signs, understand the effects, and equip yourself with strategies to combat this manipulative behavior and maintain your mental health and professional integrity.

Key Takeaways:

  • Understand what gaslighting is and its various forms

  • Recognize the signs of gaslighting in the workplace

  • Learn about the effects of gaslighting on mental health and job performance

  • Discover proactive steps to protect yourself from gaslighting

  • Get strategies for responding to gaslighting in real-time

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Recognizing Gaslighting in the Workplace: What It Is and How to Respond

Recognizing Gaslighting in the Workplace: What It Is and How to Respond

Are you feeling confused, doubting your own reality, or questioning your sanity because of something a colleague or boss said? You might be experiencing gaslighting. In this episode, you’ll learn what gaslighting is, how to recognize it in the workplace, and actionable steps you can take to protect yourself. Learn to identify the signs, understand the effects, and equip yourself with strategies to combat this manipulative behavior and maintain your mental health and professional integrity.

Key Takeaways:

  • Understand what gaslighting is and its origins

  • Recognize the signs of gaslighting in the workplace

  • Learn about the effects of gaslighting on mental health and job performance

  • Discover proactive steps to protect yourself from gaslighting

  • Get strategies for responding to gaslighting in real-time

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Managing Stress and Anxiety at Work: Tools for Coping with a Toxic Boss

Managing Stress and Anxiety at Work: Tools for Coping with a Toxic Boss

Struggling with stress and anxiety due to a toxic boss? You're not alone. In this episode, you’ll gain practical tools and techniques to help you manage stress and anxiety at work. Learn how to protect your mental health and stay productive even in challenging work environments.

Key Takeaways:

  • Understand the impact of a toxic boss on your mental health

  • Practice mindfulness and meditation techniques to stay centered

  • Engage in physical activity to relieve tension and boost mood

  • Manage your time effectively to reduce stress

  • Seek support from colleagues, friends, and professionals

  • Explore creative outlets and the power of humor to relieve stress

  • Set boundaries to protect your mental health and prevent burnout

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Navigating Office Politics: Turning Toxic Situations to Your Advantage

Navigating Office Politics: Turning Toxic Situations to Your Advantage

Struggling with office politics in a toxic work environment? You're not alone. In this episode, leadership coach Doug Howard shares actionable strategies to help you navigate and leverage office politics to your advantage. Learn how to identify political dynamics, build strategic alliances, communicate effectively, and maintain your integrity while advancing your career. Transform toxic situations into opportunities for growth and success.

Key Takeaways:

  • Understand the common political dynamics in the workplace

  • Identify signs of a toxic work environment

  • Build strategic alliances to gain support and protection

  • Communicate effectively with colleagues and superiors

  • Leverage information to enhance your influence

  • Maintain integrity and build a strong reputation

  • Turn toxic situations into opportunities for personal and professional growth

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How to Communicate Effectively with a Difficult Boss: Tips and Techniques

How to Communicate Effectively with a Difficult Boss: Tips and Techniques

Struggling to communicate with a difficult boss? You're not alone. In this episode, you’ll learn proven strategies to help you navigate tough conversations and improve your relationship with a challenging boss. Learn how to understand your boss's communication style, practice active listening, use assertive communication, resolve conflicts effectively, manage upward, and set boundaries to maintain a healthy work-life balance.

Key Takeaways:

  • Understand your boss's communication style and tailor your approach

  • Master active listening to reduce misunderstandings

  • Use assertive communication to express your needs professionally

  • Apply conflict resolution techniques to de-escalate tensions

  • Manage upward to build trust and align your goals with your boss’s

  • Set boundaries to prevent burnout and maintain productivity

What You'll Learn:

  1. Understanding Your Boss's Communication Style: Adapt your approach to match their preferences for better rapport.

  2. Active Listening: Enhance your listening skills to truly understand your boss’s needs and concerns.

  3. Assertive Communication: Stand up for yourself while maintaining respect and professionalism.

  4. Conflict Resolution Techniques: Address disagreements constructively and find mutually beneficial solutions.

  5. Managing Up: Proactively manage your relationship with your boss to ensure mutual success.

  6. Setting Boundaries: Maintain a healthy work-life balance and prevent burnout by setting clear boundaries.

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Reading Your Negotiation Counterpart: The 3 Types of Negotiators

Reading Your Negotiation Counterpart: The 3 Types of Negotiators

Negotiating can be challenging, especially if you don't understand who you're negotiating with. In this episode, you’ll learn how to identify the three main types of negotiators – Accommodator, Analyzer, and Assertive – and adapt your techniques to achieve better outcomes. By understanding your counterpart's negotiation style, you can communicate more effectively and reach mutually beneficial agreements.

Key Takeaways:

  • Learn the characteristics, strengths, tendencies, weaknesses, and blind spots of Accommodators, Analyzers, and Assertives

  • Discover how to determine your own negotiation style

  • Get practical tips for identifying your counterpart's negotiation style

  • Avoid common mistakes when negotiating with different types

  • Implement effective strategies tailored to each negotiation style

What You'll Learn:

  1. Accommodator: How to build strong relationships and assert your needs respectfully

  2. Analyzer: The importance of preparation, data, and giving time for decision-making

  3. Assertive: Strategies for direct communication, standing your ground, and achieving goals

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How to Negotiate a Counter Offer | Simple Framework

How to Negotiate a Counter Offer | Simple Framework

Negotiating a counteroffer can be daunting, especially when your initial offer is declined. In this episode, I will guide you through the powerful Ackerman Model to help you master the art of counteroffers. Whether you're negotiating a salary raise, a business deal, or even buying a car, this method will ensure you achieve the best possible outcome.

Key Takeaways:

  • Understand the Ackerman Model and its step-by-step process

  • Learn how to set your target price and establish strategic offers

  • Discover the importance of empathy and tactical techniques in negotiations

  • See real-life examples of the Ackerman Model in action

  • Get practical tips and strategies to maximize your negotiation success

What You'll Learn:

  1. Setting Your Target Price: How to determine the ideal price or terms you want to achieve.

  2. Establishing Your First Offer: Why your first offer should be higher or lower than your target.

  3. Planning Your Counteroffers: Creating a series of counteroffers that show flexibility.

  4. Using Empathy and Tactical Techniques: Building rapport and understanding the other party’s perspective.

  5. Closing the Deal with the Final Offer: Making your final offer slightly better to close the deal.

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How to Negotiate Anything

How to Negotiate Anything

Struggling to negotiate a raise, promotion, or even a better deal on a car? You're not alone. In this episode, I break down the six essential pillars of effective negotiation.

Learn how to avoid common negotiation mistakes, understand the psychology behind successful negotiation, and master a step-by-step framework to get what you want.

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9 Powerful Negotiating Tools and Strategies

9 Powerful Negotiating Tools and Strategies

Negotiating can be challenging, but with the right tools and strategies, you can handle any negotiation scenario with confidence.

In this episode, we break down nine powerful negotiation tools from the book "Never Split the Difference" by Chris Voss. Learn how to apply these tactics to achieve better outcomes in your professional and personal negotiations.

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Creating a Culture of Accountability: Steve Jobs vs. Elon Musk

Creating a Culture of Accountability: Steve Jobs vs. Elon Musk

Struggling to hold your team accountable?

In today's fast-paced business environment, managing accountability is crucial but challenging. Whether it's missed deadlines, lack of ownership, or poor communication, these issues can significantly impact your team's performance.

In this episode, we explore the 5 pillars of creating a culture of accountability and compare how Steve Jobs did it right and how Elon Musk sometimes gets it wrong.

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Strategic Decision-Making for Leaders | Balancing Data and Intuition

Strategic Decision-Making for Leaders | Balancing Data and Intuition

Many managers and leaders struggle with making critical decisions because they often lean too heavily on data or rely solely on intuition. This imbalance can lead to costly mistakes, missed opportunities, and strategic failures. Finding the right balance between data-driven decision-making and intuitive insights is essential for effective leadership and strategic planning.

Ignoring data can cause you to miss out on key trends and insights, just as over-relying on data can blind you to important contextual factors and intuitive cues. Whether you're in the midst of a product launch, facing competitive threats, or navigating market changes, mastering this balance is crucial.

In this video, you'll learn how to:

  • Understand the Importance of Balance: Discover why integrating both data and intuition is vital for strategic decision-making.

  • Gather and Analyze Data Effectively: Learn practical techniques for collecting and interpreting data to support your decisions.

  • Tap into Your Intuition: Explore methods to enhance and trust your intuitive insights for better outcomes.

  • Combine Data and Intuition: Get actionable tips on how to harmonize data and intuition to make well-rounded, informed decisions.

Watch this episode to gain insights on how to make better strategic decisions by leveraging both data and intuition effectively!

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How To Introduce Yourself to a New Team as a Manager

How To Introduce Yourself to a New Team as a Manager

New to the leadership game?

Or maybe you’re an experienced manager that’s about to begin leading a new team?

Either way, this episode equips you with a winning strategy for your first introduction as a manager. Learn how to craft a powerful introduction that builds trust, fosters open communication, and sets the stage for a successful tenure with your team.

You'll learn:

  • The key elements of a powerful introduction (what to say & what to avoid!)

  • How to tailor your delivery to the company culture (suit & tie vs. jeans & t-shirts?)

  • Strategies to encourage questions and open communication with your team ️

  • Common team questions you should be prepared to answer

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From Peer to Leader: Building Trust & Respect with Your Former Colleagues

From Peer to Leader: Building Trust & Respect with Your Former Colleagues

Feeling awkward leading your former colleagues?

This episode is for YOU!

Learn battle-tested strategies to build trust, foster collaboration, and earn respect from your new team, even if they used to be your peers.

We'll cover:

  • Common mistakes new managers make (and how to avoid them!)

  • Communication techniques that build trust and transparency

  • Collaboration strategies that leverage your team's strengths

  • Leadership approaches that command respect

  • BONUS: Real-life story: How to deal with a difficult employee (who used to be your colleague!)

Feeling overwhelmed? Don't worry, we've got your back! This episode is packed with actionable tips and practical advice to help you navigate this tricky transition with confidence!

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8 Types of Leadership Styles in Management (with Examples)

8 Types of Leadership Styles in Management (with Examples)

Struggling to find the right leadership approach?

This video explores 8 powerful leadership styles, helping you identify your strengths and develop the skills to become a more effective leader. From inspiring and motivating your team to fostering collaboration and achieving results, learn how to adapt your style to any situation.

We'll guide you through a self-reflection process to uncover your natural tendencies and provide actionable tips to develop your leadership repertoire.

This episode is perfect for aspiring leaders looking to build their leadership skills, established leaders seeking to refine their approach, and anyone who wants to improve their communication, influence, and team dynamics!

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Engineering Manager Interview: 10 Most Common Questions, and How to CRUSH Them!

Engineering Manager Interview: 10 Most Common Questions, and How to CRUSH Them!

Dreading your engineering management interview?

Feeling lost on what to say?

This video is your secret weapon!

We'll crack the code on the 10 most common interview questions, plus provide winning answers that showcase your leadership skills and land you the offer.

Learn how to navigate tricky situations, demonstrate your ability to motivate and empower your team, and CONFIDENTLY convince the hiring manager you're the perfect fit. Plus, discover bonus tips for crafting powerful interview questions to ask the employer.

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Empower Your Team Through Failure | Why "Try Again" Builds Better Teams

Empower Your Team Through Failure | Why "Try Again" Builds Better Teams

Stop Micromanaging & Empower Your Team Through Failure!

Feeling the urge to swoop in and fix every mistake your team makes?

Hold on!

This "rescue mission" approach can actually hinder their growth and development.

In this episode, we explore the power of "Try Again" leadership.

❌ Discover the negative consequences of taking over for your team members.

✅ Learn the benefits of empowering them to learn from their failures.

Develop a tactical framework for delivering effective "Try Again" messages that build confidence and resilience.

Plus, we share real-life stories and actionable strategies to help you:

  • Foster a culture of learning from mistakes

  • Build a stronger, more high-performing team

  • Improve communication and collaboration

  • Boost team member confidence and ownership

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12 Time Management Strategies for Managers

12 Time Management Strategies for Managers

Feeling like there's just not enough time in the day to keep up with your ever-growing engineering leadership demands?

You're not alone!

In this episode, we explore 15 powerful time management techniques specifically designed to help you reclaim control of your schedule and become a productivity machine!

Master these hacks and you'll learn how to:

  • Prioritize effectively with the Eisenhower Matrix

  • Achieve laser focus with the Pomodoro Technique

  • Schedule your day strategically with Time Blocking

  • Improve your visual organization with Kanban Boards

  • Identify hidden time wasters with a Time Audit

  • Work smarter, not harder with Parkinson's Law

  • Group similar tasks for maximum efficiency with Batch Processing

  • Tackle your biggest challenge first with the "Eat the Frog" strategy

  • Focus on high-impact activities with the 80/20 Rule

  • Schedule tasks based on your natural energy levels for optimal performance

  • Identify and prioritize your 3 Most Important Tasks (MITs)

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